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Although it can be difficult, the hardest part of coming out of the closet is not telling your parents you're gay. It's not telling your friends you're gay. Most of them probably already know anyway! The hardest part of coming out is telling yourself that you're gay and then accepting the fact that it's okay. In schools, churches and homes, we've been taught to hate homosexuals and, in turn, we have learned to silently hate ourselves. Accepting the fact that you're gay is the first step toward not hating yourself anymore. If you keep that hatred inside, it can lead to desperate measures.

I am definitely a Catholic/Christian, but I can't bring myself to condemn others for having beliefs that differ from mine. I believe the important thing is how we live our lives, how we treat our fellow human beings and how strong our faith in what we believe. And let me state right here that God loves you, gay or straight or transgendered. My friend, Max once told me some very wise words that you should remember: "A person with an experience is never at the mercy of a person with a theory." Right wing Christians don't have the monopoly on God's love and grace. Let them have their rallies and protests. They will never stop God's love for me or for you.

Of course, every situation is different. Your family might not care at all if your gay. Or you may be from a "traditional" family who will spurn you if you ever intimate your homosexuality to them. To come out or not to come out is a totally personal decision. Only you can make that decision for yourself. And no matter what you decided, DO NOT condemn yourself for it. Accept yourself. After all, if you're really gay, it's not going to go away. Believe me, I know.

I have found myself playing the role of mentor to several friends, co-workers, even straight and married with children afraid to be out. Should they even be out at this stage of their life? Hmm? Only they know. I've met them through the internet and various other ways. They have asked me to take them to gay clubs, restaurants, etc., and I always accept because I want them to have someone to "show them the ropes" so they don't get hurt or used or abused. It is usually easier talking or writing about it. As the saying goes: easier said than done! Sometimes in life you get something you didn't exactly want.

So you think you can fool everyone by going out with some girls. But each time you're afraid something's going to happen on your date that's going to make you feel uncomfortable. Deep down, you know who you are but you just can't admit it to anyone. So you go out with girls, but you make it not work. You then set the unattainable goal so everyone will think you're straight and stop harassing you about going out. No one's good enough. The only person you're fooling is yourself.

Does lying to everyone makes you feel trapped. It's like you're smothering and you can't get out. It's like society is forcing you into a mold that you just don't fit. But you don't have to change to fit the mold. There are other people out there that don't fit the mold either. You're just so scared that the whole world will turn on you. COMING OUT - CAN BE TOUGH!!!! You have two choices. Stay IN or OUT! The next best thing is to be outed, or is it the next worse thing? Now, that sucks...! Life goes on. Good Day!


	BACK COMING OUT CAN BE TOUGH! By ShAnTii Although it can be difficult, the hardest part of coming out of the closet is not telling your parents you're gay. It's not telling your friends you're gay. Most of them probably already know anyway! The hardest part of coming out is telling yourself that you're gay and then accepting the fact that it's okay. In schools, churches and homes, we've been taught to hate homosexuals and, in turn, we have learned to silently hate ourselves. Accepting the fact that you're gay is the first step toward not hating yourself anymore. If you keep that hatred inside, it can lead to desperate measures. I am definitely a Catholic/Christian, but I can't bring myself to condemn others for having beliefs that differ from mine. I believe the important thing is how we live our lives, how we treat our fellow human beings and how strong our faith in what we believe. And let me state right here that God loves you, gay or straight or transgendered. My friend, Max once told me some very wise words that you should remember: "A person with an experience is never at the mercy of a person with a theory." Right wing Christians don't have the monopoly on God's love and grace. Let them have their rallies and protests. They will never stop God's love for me or for you. Of course, every situation is different. Your family might not care at all if your gay. Or you may be from a "traditional" family who will spurn you if you ever intimate your homosexuality to them. To come out or not to come out is a totally personal decision. Only you can make that decision for yourself. And no matter what you decided, DO NOT condemn yourself for it. Accept yourself. After all, if you're really gay, it's not going to go away. Believe me, I know. I have found myself playing the role of mentor to several friends, co-workers, even straight and married with children afraid to be out. Should they even be out at this stage of their life? Hmm? Only they know. I've met them through the internet and various other ways. They have asked me to take them to gay clubs, restaurants, etc., and I always accept because I want them to have someone to "show them the ropes" so they don't get hurt or used or abused. It is usually easier talking or writing about it. As the saying goes: easier said than done! Sometimes in life you get something you didn't exactly want. So you think you can fool everyone by going out with some girls. But each time you're afraid something's going to happen on your date that's going to make you feel uncomfortable. Deep down, you know who you are but you just can't admit it to anyone. So you go out with girls, but you make it not work. You then set the unattainable goal so everyone will think you're straight and stop harassing you about going out. No one's good enough. The only person you're fooling is yourself. Does lying to everyone makes you feel trapped. It's like you're smothering and you can't get out. It's like society is forcing you into a mold that you just don't fit. But you don't have to change to fit the mold. There are other people out there that don't fit the mold either. You're just so scared that the whole world will turn on you. COMING OUT - CAN BE TOUGH!!!! You have two choices. Stay IN or OUT! The next best thing is to be outed, or is it the next worse thing? Now, that sucks...! Life goes on. Good Day! \| Klick N Read New \| Klick & Read Aug/Oct 06 \| Henri On.... \| In The Guirre \| AN ORDINARY DAY \| \| Return Home \| Klick N Read \| Monthly Calendar \| SYM Calendar \| Venue Photos \| SYM Photos \| News Etc \| VALENTINOS \| My Space \| Great Links \| FAQ Page \| Contact Us \|